Relationships: Musings

As someone who lacks experience in life and likes to blame this completely ton my young age and my restricted culture, I still find myself wondering about relationships. Specifically romantic ones.

For many years I thought that relationships hold some deep profound connection with another human that cannot be had with someone who you were not romantically involved with. And then more recent times I thought that relationship of adult nature are really about procreation rather than anything else. And children who decide to have relationships and, yes, I mean young teenagers are simply following or modelling what their adult counterparts are doing. However this definition does not quite fit either. Because if it were the case there would be no need for marriage or commitment as long as you got enough sex and have enough children to continue to populate the world. And yet I find myself thinking could the entire world be wrong in wanting a  committed relationship.

It must be a combination of both, the profound deep connection and ultimate companionship and the need to procreate. It seems simple enough and yet as the years continue we seem less and less likely to find the perfect combination of the two. Was it really easier for our parents? Or are we living in a delusion? Is it that hard to find someone to put up with and still want to have sex with them? Maybe 'put up with' is not the right words. But more likely are we living in fantasies, thinking that we find someone that somehow will want to have sex with us and only us and will also find our life story completely captivating. I mean I'm sure human nature has not changed that much since our parent's time. Why do we give up so easily? It's like we are constantly looking for the better person whilst we are in the current relationship and instead of working with the one we have. I don't understand people who say we want to find a person who will care for us and yet we have no intention of working for it. If the person we currently have just happens to be not quite right we throw in the towel and look for someone new. But in reality people are not perfect and we should stop expecting them to be. And furthermore it is very rare we will find the perfect person and 'the one'. Because usually people change and it is really about changing together and growing together and essentially about realising that you are individual entities who come together but still remain individual.